We criticize our girls for being mean, but I was reminded today that mean girls don't go away - they become mean moms.
Our son is playing football this year (again) and is on a new team. It was one of those things, you didn't realize how good you had it until it was gone. Last year there was a sense of team. We ALL made small talk. I don't think that any parent was made to feel excluded, even though our coaches and their children were all friends outside of football.
I waited to say anything thinking that maybe it was just since this team was new together that was the reason that there was such a distance between some of the moms.
I was wrong. As the season has progressed the "cool moms" as I have coined them have continued their clique and it is gaining momentum.
Now to be fair, there are two of them that are nice to everyone, but one the "gang" the mean Moms have control.
Here is the straw for me....
we get group texts from the coach. Today's message was at 7:20 this morning as I was trying to feed a baby, feed and dress a cranky toddler, dress a cheerleader, and dress a football player to be out to the ball field at 7:40. The message came and without thinking, I replied with a "k". It was hectic I wasn't thinking.
How dare I reply to that message.
That became the topic of conversation for at least 20 minutes over how I replied "k" to the morning text. There were a lot of reallys? Can you believe?? We get enough messages... That was just the nice part. This was all over a text message. One letter "k" ruined the day. HELLO, I AM SITTING RIGHT HERE!!!!!
But at the same time, I believe that only one or two has taken the time to get to know my name, heck they probably don't even know who my son is.
Granted I was tired but my feelings were really hurt. How could someone be so critical and mean when I am sitting right there (with my 3 yr old and my baby - Chris was at the other game with Naomi while she was cheering).
It's no wonder our girls can't be nice. Look at the example we lead with. I always tell the kids, you lead by example. If you want so and so to do something, lead them - don't tell them, don't yell, don't boss, demonstrate the right thing to do.
And yes, I was mad fun of when I was a kid too....my feelings still hurt even though I'm older now.
